RELIGIOUS PANACEA TO THE CRISIS OF UNRAISED ADULTS, PARENTING ERRORS AND MARITAL CHAOS

Abstract

In contemporary society, the rising incidence of marital instability and emotional incompatibility among young couples can be traced not only to individual moral failure but also to defective parenting patterns that neglect holistic upbringing. Many parents today, overwhelmed by modern distractions and permissive cultural influences, prioritize material success and academic attainment over moral discipline, spiritual consciousness, and emotional maturity. Consequently, children are often raised into physical adulthood without achieving psychological balance or ethical grounding, entering marriage as “unfinished adults” whose partners must bear the burden of re-parenting them. This paper interrogates the nexus between parenting failures and marital breakdowns, arguing that the home remains the primary training ground for emotional intelligence, empathy, and responsibility. Drawing upon Qur’ānic injunctions, Prophetic traditions, and the moral insights of classical Muslim scholars, the study explores Islam’s comprehensive framework for tarbiyyah (moral-spiritual upbringing) as the foundation for stable family life. Using qualitative textual analysis, the paper critically examines Islamic teachings on parental accountability, child development, and spousal harmony, positioning them as a corrective paradigm to modern secular approaches that fragment moral and emotional education. The study finds that Islam envisions parenting as a sacred trust (amānah) and a form of moral apprenticeship that extends beyond provision and protection to include ethical modeling, compassion, and emotional literacy. By restoring Islamic principles of holistic upbringing rooted in faith (īmān), adab (character refinement), and taqwā (God-consciousness) the paper offers a spiritual and practical panacea to the widespread crisis of immature adults and fragile marriages. It concludes that no marital therapy can compensate for parental negligence, and that reforming the home through Islamic tarbiyyah remains the surest path to building emotionally healthy individuals and enduring marriages.